The arabic word for sadness or grief is “Gham” – derived from the word “Ghaamama (the cloud) ” . Although there`s no apparent relationship between sadness and cloud, however there`s a hidden one. Just like a cloud blocks all the sun-shine coming down to earth, sadness or grief in a way or other also acts as a stumbling block for a man`s positive energy and performance.
It is very natural that when a person is happy and everything is going according to his whims and desires, his own wishful thinking, his performance is at it`s peak, but when he is tested or a calamity strikes him, he becomes pessimistic and isn`t able to give a good performance.
The real test lies in giving a good performance despite being in stress and crisis, despite failing in exams over and over again, despite having a fight with the fellow colleague or losing the beloved ones.
Once a man develops this quality, he becomes distinct from normal person who moans over all his problems and wastes all the time. It makes a person true leader.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “When Allah desires good for someone, He tries him with hardships.” [Sahîh al-Bukhârî]
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “Whatever befalls a Muslim of exhaustion, illness, worry, grief, nuisance or trouble, even though it may be no more than a prick of a thorn, earns him forgiveness by Allah of some of his sins.” [Sahīh al-Bukhārī]
The Muslim may be tested by all sorts of difficulties like sickness, lack of income, and disobedience from his children. In fact, the many afflictions that may beset a person are incalculable. This is the point that the Prophet (peace be upon him) was stressing when he mentioned: “fatigue, illness, anxiety, sorrow, harm or sadness …even to the extent of a thorn pricking him”.
All of these afflictions, if endured patiently by the believer, are a means of attaining Allah’s forgiveness as well as His reward.
Every one of us is being tested by Allah. He tests us all in different ways. We should not assume that the difficulties that we face in life are punishments or are signs that Allah is displeased with us. Likewise, we should never construe the success and pleasures that others enjoy as signs that Allah is pleased with them or that they are privileged. Sometimes, quite the opposite is true.
Sadness should never let us give up our dreams, our vision and our true moral values we stand upon. It should never let us diminish our will power and hope. The examples of lives of various prophets mentioned in the Glorious Quran give us several lessons to sustain on our vision despite being in crisis.
Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “The prophets were the most severely tested of people.” [Sunan al-Tirmidhī (2397) andSunan Ibn Mājah (4023, 4024)]
Noah a.s was teased the most yet he kept on preaching for 950 years. Ibrahim a.s was thrown in the fire but it never broke him up.
Yousaf a.s was sold as a slave, send to jail for years despite being innocent, but it didn`t changed his moral values and ethics he stood upon. Unlike innocent prisoners today, who become revengeful towards society after they get free.
The last and final messenger of Allah(peace be upon him) himself had to see a lot in his life, from the loss of his beloved uncles to the loss of the baby son Ibrahim, from individual persecutions to social boycott. But it never made him weak, rather emerged him as a more powerful person and better leader.
Sickness, weakness, and poverty are among the common trials of life, but a discerning mind can often find wisdom in their existence. Nevertheless, the life of this world should not be considered in isolation. No assessment of life will be balanced unless it is considered in connection with the Hereafter – with the fact that our ultimate return is to our Lord.
This is what gives contentment and composure to the believer’s heart, and acceptance of what must be endured in life. It is only this consideration that provides a balanced view of life, and through which much of the wisdom of what takes place in the world becomes evident.
written by : Fareed Ahmad, can be contacted at “email@example.com”